How To: Pull in Opportunities

Early one stressful morning when the world seems to renting out my shoulders, I went to a cafe for a little R7R and self reflection. I sat down and wrote it all out. I wrote my purpose, how I live it and asked for help for help so that I can continue.
As I was finishing the the second paragraph, someone entered the room and informed me that his ESL class was starting soon and asked to use the room. Upon leaving he  as what I was working on, I told him and he said "You're an inspiration to your people". There it was, my confirmation. It didn't come as a job opportunity or free flowers, it came through a senior who chose to recognize the potential within me. It was a small nudge, a keep going that I really needed.

Today I will share 3 steps to get you your own little "confirmation":

1. Get Real with yourself
In this moment, are you feeling like a failure? A loser? You can't hide from your feelings, so just acknowledge that emotion and how you got into this situation (hint: it was your 'tude).

2. Write a declaration
Write it out! Use those emotions and ask to be guided to your purpose and intend to actually do the work, whatever it may be.

3. Appreciation and Hustle
Say thank you and really feel it and then get to work. Paint that portrait! Write that blog post! Do it from the heart, no filters or self doubt.

Challenge! Challenge!:
In the comments below, share your biggest passion and what you would do if you had no limitations.

In Grace,
Kendra

Life's A Day in the Park

Earlier today my Husband I were out and stop by a park we discovered. We've been in Tulsa for 6 months and just now finding a city gem.

I walked around and enjoyed the fresh and people watching. It felt just right, the perfect blend of sunlight, people and wind.

In Grace,

Kendra

A Big Change is Coming!

Hello Ladies,

Thank you all for the support on my blog and videos, I really appreciate it. This is my second week at my new job and I'm adjusting back to the 9-5 rhythm. I am also working on some projects and feel like a have a lot to do so I may move forward with only one biggie for now.
And the biggest change is: I'm moving! We've already completed the first step for our move and have the second to do. Wow, I'm just excited to finally be in a place of joy and releasing a lot of pint up negativity and older belief sysytems.

Enjoy a vlog I recorded a few days ago:

In Grace,
Kendra

Annoyed? It's your Energy

Lately things have been flowing very well but I was hit with a low frequency that I do not enjoy. I have a new job starting next week and I'd prefer to blog full-time instead. This combined with many other factors puts in me a sour mood from time to time. When I'm around others who either slave away at work or professionally waste away, it reminds me of my situation and makes me even more annoyed. I'm fully aware that everything I see is only a reflection
of myself, which isn't soothing.
So, I see others watch TV all day, discuss nonsense and I'm reminded that we're on similar frequencies, yuck.
Since I'm on the path to recreating my belief system I decided to flip this script and respond differently, which is the test.
1. Instead of getting mad at them for living that way - I choose to respect and honor their choice as that is what they are doing on their respective path.
2. Instead of running away and wasting my resources so that I'm not around them - Breathe. I choose to reevaluate my belief system and improve from within so that my life will ultimaty reflect my choice.
3. Instead of binge eating my problems - Blog about it and be grateful for what I do have and enjoy.

In the comments below please share your experiences in a sour mood and what you do get out of it.

In grace,
Kendra

How To: Own your Beauty

"New Year, New Me" seems to be this month's anthem. Everyone's running, actually driving, to the gym and downing green juices like Red Bull. Ahh, I wonder if the Healthy Lifestyle craze will end in February, or tomorrow. Here, I'm going to give some pointers in how to approach your new you correctly and make it a last.

Right now most people are staring at their New Year Resolution list and wondering two things: 1. How the hell do I do this? and 2. Is it over yet? Exactly. You see, most of us are focused on changing ourselves instead of examining where we are, how we arrived at this dreaded point and how we can really make this big change. It's almost as if a New Year resembles becoming a new person, someone you saw on TV or at the mall who you think is prettier/thinner/richer than you instead of honoring who actually are. Yep, I said it.

For the longest time while growing up I was always compliment, not for my intelligence, but for my physical presence. I was, and still am, complimented on my skin tone, eyes, hair and teeth. Yes, those are basic factors in beauty but I grew up in the South, a small suburb and many held onto to the ideal beauty being a slim, light skinned woman with long curly hair. This had been obvious to me since I was young and as a result I was teased and has many admirers. After years of being treated badly by other girls, out of their own insecurity, I figured that if I hid my beauty and ignored compliments then others around me wouldn't feel bad. Big problem! Why, because:

When you step out of your natural spotlight, you give others your power and you lose sense of yourself.

It's true. Since forming that habit, I stopped caring for myself. I didn't workout, I ate horribly and became so lazy. Yeah, I remained comfortable since I did the bare minimum and was still complimented.

It was until late last year that I realized something that has made me feel my best: I don't look like everyone else. When I watched TV (read here on why I don't), I was pretty insecure and would stress over my body. I watched as most of the actresses had the same look, and I dodn't have that look. Even when I'm out running erands, the women who see as generally attractive seem to have the same damn look and fashion sense.  I came about this realization when I looked into the mirror one day and noticed that I look like both of my parents, yet different. As I looked deeper and for much longer i noticed my odd shaped lips, cold brown eyes and skin that seems to change when it wants. I realized "Hey, I look different and I love it". Given that I'm weird to begin with, read below for my tips to be-you-tiful...


Follow these steps to own your beauty:

• In the morning, get up and stare at the mirror. Don't think or critize, just look and notice your eyes, lips, ears and hair.
• Now, make facial expressions: laugh, pout, roll your eyes and make a mean face then laugh yourself.
• Look at every body part that you've been told that isn't perfect and say "Ha, God/I gave me this and told me to rock it!"

Remember, everything is a choice. Like most of us choose to watch TV and see someone as more attractive than ourselves, you can and must choose to be present in your own natural greatness and beauty.


In grace,
Kendra